How to Talk to Parents about Legacy Videos, Part 2
Reflecting on life isn’t about mortality. It is about legacy.
Strategies to get them on board
If you’ve already read part one of our series on how to get your parents to do a legacy video, we thought we would dive a little deeper here.
We get it. Convincing your parents to sit down and record their life stories on video might feel a bit daunting. But trust us, it's worth it. At Legacy Video Stories, we’ve seen how these projects can transform family bonds and create treasures for generations to come. At Legacy Video Stories, we’re happy to offer some advice on how to approach this important conversation with your parents or other family elders.
Framing the request to make a legacy video
One of the biggest hurdles is how to frame the request without making it seem like you’re focused on their mortality. Instead, speak from the heart. Let them know that their stories are vital to your sense of belonging and identity. Tell them how much they matter to you and your entire family. Explain that their stories are a part of who you are, and that you want to make sure they are never forgotten."
By creating a family Legacy Video, your parents and grandparents can leave a lasting legacy that is appreciated for future generations.
Explain why a legacy video matters
Think about it: your parents and grandparents hold a wealth of knowledge, stories, and experiences that are unique to them. From cherished family recipes to the tales of how your family came to settle in a particular place, these stories shape who you are. Documenting them isn’t just about preserving memories; it’s about creating a tangible connection to your heritage for future generations.
When you approach your parents, emphasize that their stories are an invaluable part of your family’s identity. Explain that capturing these stories is about more than just reminiscing—it’s about ensuring that their wisdom and experiences are passed down and cherished by those who come after.
Present their legacy video as a gift
When you bring up the idea of a family Legacy Video, frame it as a gift for them. While it is indeed a gift for them to reflect on their lives and be honored in this way, the true gift is the legacy they provide to you. Acknowledge that despite your independence, there are some things only your parents can provide—the story of your family.
Family history matters
There are also pragmatic reasons to consider. There are likely parts of your family history that you don’t know because you never took the time to ask about it. Maybe you’ve always wondered how your parents met or how your grandfather learned his trade. These details could be lost forever if you don’t take the time to ask about them and record them for posterity. All of these details, not matter how small or trivial they seem, together form a colorful mosaic of your family history and identity.
Involve them in the process of creating their legacy video
To make this process smooth, invite your parents to be involved in the process. Ensure they feel comfortable and give them a chance to shape their own narrative. Involve them in the conversation and let them ask questions and express any concerns,they may have. Perhaps there are some things they would rather now discuss. Find that out upfront and promise not to put them on the spot.
By approaching this conversation with love and respect, you can help ensure that your family's stories are preserved and cherished for generations to come.
